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Many of us suppress our emotions
in the waking world-especially extreme ones-for fear of somehow
alienating those around us, or else of appearing dangerously
vulnerable, or even of disgusting ourselves.
This means that the only way
in which we can "safely" express our true feelings
is in dreamland. Dreams that are flooded with a positive emotion
may furthermore often be categorized as wish- fulfillment dreams,
while those that are blighted by a negative emotion may be classed
as safety-valve dreams.
Below is an analysis of two emotions
common in dreams: fear and freedom.
FEAR
If you had a nightmare that left
you paralyzed with fear, you probably awoke feeling very relieved
to realize that it was just a dream, and you may have spent most
of the next day trying to push it out of your memory. However,
these types of dreams are underlined by our waking fears-which
are very real, though perhaps repressed-which are likely to appear
in our dreams again and again until we confront and resolve them.
Symbolic and Verbal Associations
* Unconscious fears; phobias
* Something (or someone) that one finds "monstrous"
* Repressed personal qualities or characteristics
* External threats
* A call to action; the "fight or flight" response
Positive Interpretations:
If you have a waking phobia of
spiders, did you wake up in a panic after dreaming that hundreds
of giant, hairy arachnids were crawling all over you?
Or, if you suffer from a fear
of heights, did you have a nightmare in which you found yourself
dangling precariously over the edge of a very high cliff?
If so, your dream was probably
just mirroring your waking phobias, especially if something in
the real world has recently triggered your fear.
And, as scary as your dream may
have been to you, your unconscious mind probably selected the
nightmare scenario as a "call to action," in order
to urge you to confront and conquer your fear.
If you have a recurring scary
dream, you may find it helpful to tell yourself that when you
next have the dream, you will not run from whatever it is that
frightens you, be it spiders or boogeymen, but will instead stand
and face whatever it is.
If you do, you may be surprised
to find that the dream consequences are not as bad as you imagined
them to be, which will help to allay your fear and hopefully
put an end to the dreams.
Negative Interpretations:
The unconscious will sometimes
portray our fears in monstrous form. Did you have a dream in
which you were being pursued by a hideous, fanged monster that
had run you down and was about to overtake you?
If so, the monster was most likely
a symbol of something that you fear in the waking world that
you feel is threatening to consume you.
Doing some free association may
help you to figure out whom or what your dream monster represented.
Was it your predatory lover?
An ogre-like teacher? Your own
"green-eyed" beast of jealousy? Could your dream vampire
have represented your energy-sapping friend? (Or had you just
watched a vampire movie on late-night
television?)
Once you have identified the
source of your fright, you will be better able to arm yourself
in order to do battle with whatever it is that is troubling you.
FREEDOM
Sometimes our dreams may fill
us with an exhilarating sense of freedom or liberation. And when
we awake from this sort of dream, we may feel somewhat let down
or disappointed to realize that we must now deal with the more
mundane reality of the world.
Dreams of flying may be the most
literal or obvious form of freedom dreams, but almost any dream
scenario may fall into this category, depending on our own subjective
feelings and
experiences.
Symbolic and Verbal Associations
* Exhilaration
* Escape; release
* Casting off your shackles
* "Being yourself "
* "Flying high," or "floating free"
Positive Interpretations:
In your dream, were you soaring
over beautiful mountains and valleys, or running carefree through
a meadow of wildflowers? Or did your dream self rise up and walk
out of your tedious office job for the last time?
Dreams in which we finally break
away from the chains and shackles that bind us-physically or
emotionally-are likely to fill us with an overwhelming feeling
of euphoria.
Wish-fulfillment, escapist fantasy
dreams of this sort are special treats from our unconscious minds,
sent to us in order to make up or compensate for the tedium or
drudgery of our day-to-day lives.
These dreams may provide us with
the little extra boost that we need in order to cope with daily
life-and if we heed their message, they may even encourage us
to release ourselves from whatever (or whoever) is holding us
back or sapping our vitality in the waking world.
Negative Interpretations:
If you felt extremely sad or
depressed after waking from a dream in which you experienced
ultimate freedom, do you feel that the dreariness and the confines
of your current life have chained you down so firmly that there
is no way of ever escaping to happiness?
For instance, are you in a relationship
that is making you feel trapped or claustrophobic? Are the demands
of others, or of your workload, stealing your time, your energy,
or your individuality? Do you long for a more exciting, stimulating
relationship, job, or life? Do you desire the freedom to "be
yourself "?
If so, your unconscious mind
was probably using your dream in order to urge you to seek appropriate
help to take the necessary steps to release yourself from whatever
situation is confining you.
Though your dream may have provided
you with a temporary release from your troubles, you may continue
to experience your waking sadness until you make a conscious
effort to cast off your shackles- whether they were put on you
by yourself or by others- and to live your life in whatever manner
you find personally fulfilling.
Copyright © 2006 Clare Gibson
Clare Gibson is the author of
numerous books on dreams and astrology. This article is part
of an extract from her book: The Ultimate Dream Decoder.
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