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Research shows that married men
have an increased life expectancy. You deserve to have those
extra years of life with your wife to be the best. This article
is about manifesting the best for both of you.
First we want to look at you. You
have everything to do with what kind of wife you are going to
be enjoying your life with. Take a look at all areas of your
life, mental, emotional, spiritual, and physical. Where are you
at in your balance of taking care of yourself in all of these
areas? Make an inventory and see what you can do to make sure
every aspect of your life is healthy and strong. Be the best
husband and all around person you can be to help your wife become
the best she can be too.
Look at ways you can encourage your
wife to make it a top priority that she takes very good care
of herself. Share information with her on what you do for yourself,
and give her gifts of items that will help her with her own personal
care efforts. Books on meditation, bath/spa items, massage, Reiki
treatments, these are all great ideas that will help her feel
her best. The better she feels, the better she will be able to
offer to you.
Lets compare taking good care of
your wife to your yard if you have one. When you water the grass,
use fertilizer, weed killer, mow it on a timely basis, you will
have a lush green beautiful yard that is a pleasure to spend
time in. If you don't care for it, what is it? It becomes just
a yard, maybe with patches of weeds or spots where nothing is
growing at all, just a brown, bare, spots. Not so pleasurable
is it? It might even become an embarrassment for you. It's all
a case of getting what you paid for in the amount of effort you
are willing to put forth.
This is the same in caring for your
wife. It stands to reason, if you take good care of her, she
will be a pleasure to you. Women need nurturing to be able to
open up and nurture back properly. They need to trust you and
know that you are there for them, not just as a figurehead of
the family, but also as an active person within their day-to-day
lives.
Marital sex nurtures every part
of your being. A healthy sex life improves your marriage and
your health! Helping your wife open up to her sexual side can
be very beneficial for both of you, not to mention lots of fun!
Talk with you wife about her fantasies if she'll share them with
you, and then do your best to make them all come true.
If your wife isn't "in the
mood" as much as either one of you might like, try to find
out why and work to correct that with her. Perhaps her body is
changing from getting older, or from children and she doesn't
feel as attractive as she used to be. Give her reassurance that
you find her beautiful and encourage her to do things for herself
to help her feel sexy. Be very careful to not criticize her for
her appearance. Women are very hard on themselves in this area
and any criticism from you will leave her feeling even less attractive.
She definitely won't feel like opening her body up to you for
further scrutiny. Encourage her in positive ways for whatever
she might be working on with her body and compliment her for
efforts she does make, even the smallest of them.
Perhaps she's just very busy and
gets too tired! If you have kids, get a babysitter once a week
to have a relaxing evening with each other, even if it''s just
for a couple of hours. Take that time to just relax and remember
each other without the children. Give her massages, nice baths,
have the highest of reverence for her body; she will pay much
more attention to yours in return.
If your wife works, pitch in with
the domestic responsibilities. If you can afford it, have someone
come in once a week for a few hours to help with the heavier
cleaning and laundry. You might even know a high school student
that would be willing to do this for a more modest cost. Saving
your wife time and energy will help her have more time and energy
to spend with you.
Make communicating a priority. Listen
deeply to your wife, it honors her to feel understood and that
you are interested in what she has to say. Simply listening without
giving advice is usually best. Wait until she specifically asked
for your suggestions so she doesn''t feel like you are trying
to tell her what to do. Or, ask her first if she would like your
advice. If she says no, then save it for some other time when
she might be more receptive. Be clear on letting her know what
you need and want from her too. Do it with kindness and patience
and without putting blame on her if things are less than wonderful.
Make sure and appreciate the efforts
your wife makes and tell her often. Let her know by simply telling
her, or send her a special note or email. Give her little gifts
when you can. Even if it's a wildflower you pick outside and
bring in, it's the little things that count too! It's important
to feel needed and appreciated and your wife will learn to pay
attention to more that you are doing so she can give appreciation
to you too.
Make sure and really look at her
too when you are communicating things with her. This shows her
that she is worth your time and attentions. This will mean a
lot to her.
Give your wife the benefit of a
full loving experience. Let her see love by the things you do
and how you take time to spend with her. Let her feel love by
being affectionate, not just during romantic times. Let her hear
love by telling her what she means to you. Then make sure you
are open to receiving all of the ways she can show love to you.
I hope these ideas help you create
a beautiful marriage for yourself and your wife. If you would
like more ideas, or have a specific situation you would like
more insight on, please email me at anytime. Remember, if you
want to be the Esteemed King of the Castle; your wife is most
assuredly your Queen! Treat her like one and watch to see the
benefits you will gain!
Tracy Togliatti is a Holistic Practitioner
and specializing in Energy Psychology and Reiki
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